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Hello and welcome to my blog. On the 31st July 2014 I was diagnosed with Young onset dementia. I may not have much of a short-term memory anymore but that date is one I’ll never forget.

Me - 59 years young with my wonderful daughters:)
Me – 59 years young with my wonderful daughters:)

I’m 62 years young, live happily alone in Yorkshire, have 2 daughters and I continued to work full time in the NHS until the end of March 2015, when I chose to take early retirement to enable me to enjoy being me while I’m able. I have never ‘tweeted’, ‘blogged’ or ‘facebooked’ in my life but since I was diagnosed, everything else in my life has changed, so why not this. I hope you find my ramblings of interest.

I started this blog to allow me, in the first instance, to write all my thoughts before they’re lost. Luckily the part of my brain that allows me to type hasn’t broken yet and I find that easier than talking. I have calendars that take care of the future but this blog serves as a reminder of what I’ve done and said in the past – it now serves as my memory. If anyone chooses to follow my ramblings it will serve as a way of raising awareness.

It will hopefully convey the helplessness of those diagnosed with dementia, as there is no cure – the end is inevitable. However, I’m also hoping I can convey that, although we’ve been diagnosed, people like me still have a substantial contribution to make; we still have a sense of humour; we still have feelings. I’m hoping to show the reality of trying to cope on a day-to-day basis with the ever-changing environment that dementia throws at those diagnosed with the condition. Living as well as you can with dementia is all about adapting. Adapting to new ways to enable us to live better for longer with dementia.

I can type as though dementia never entered my world as that part of my brain has not yet been affected, but that often works against me as people question my diagnosis. All I can say is, live a day in my shoes and I’m sure the reality will dawn.

What I want is not sympathy. What I want is simply to raise awareness.

I’m now the proud author of the Sunday Times Best Seller, Somebody I Used to Know, which just goes to show, you should never give up on yourself.

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If you prefer to comment by email please feel free – wendy7713@icloud.com or you can find me on Twitter   @WendyPMitchell

Billy, my daughter's cat - a calming influence in my life.
Billy, my daughter’s cat – a calming influence in my life.

 

 

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  1. It has made my month meeting you at corporate induction. I’ve no interest in celebrities, but since hearing your interview on the radio if told so many people about it and your book and I knew I really wanted to meet you. Thanks for being awesome, articulate, inspirational you 🙂 Kimberley Braithwaite xx

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  2. I have just read an Article in Woman & Home and was so inspired by your story and your courage.And by what you are doing by shining on a light on dementia…I look forward to reading your book to learn more!

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  3. Hi Wendy, I have just finished reading your book which made me both laugh and cry. My sister gave me the book as our mother has dementia. It made me realise that there is so much more that we can still enjoy together as I see her as not just a sufferer of the illness but my mum that just has foggy days, if that makes sense. We baked cakes this weekend and had so much fun. Thank you so much for helping me understand a bit more. x

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  4. I have just finished reading Someone I Used to Know. I only wish I had read it in time to better understand my friend and fellow Grandma, who lived with Dementia for several years until her recent death.
    I have suggested to my family that they read it too, just in case they need to know.
    Thank you, Wendy.

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  5. Hello Wendy. I have just finished reading your book in one sitting. My 87 year old Mum is in care and has Vascular Dementia. It has been a very hard and difficult journey over the last few years. Thank you for being the inspiration you are to others and shining a light on Dementia. You have confirmed what I have suspected. My Mum may not remember or understand what is happening around her but she can feel love and comfort. May God bless you and give you peace.

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  6. Wendy, I’ve just read your book – my Mum has Alzheimer’s and you address so many unspoken things which has made me so much more aware of what to and what not to say and equally, how to say it! You’re an absolute inspiration and I hope to inspire Mum to help her know she’s got so much to offer. Thank you and wishing you all the very best. Matthew

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  7. Dear Wendy,
    I have just finished your book, and want to say how much it has helped me to better understand this condition. I have worked as a volunteer at a residential home, and there are many persons there suffering the later stages of dementia. Your book has given me so much more confidence in befriending these people. It is so good to know that kindness can still get through to what often appears a blank canvas, and can make a difference to confused and lonely lives. A big God bless. Kathleen.

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  8. Hello Wendy – I hope you don’t mind me calling you such but feel I know you having read your book. My husband was diagnosed with BV frontemporal Dementia about five years ago. His memory issues are not quite the same as Alzheimer’s but his recognition is very poor. He gets confused and easily distracted. Your book has helped me to understand mental health especially as the NHS have left us to our own devices since the initial tests and scans. It’s difficult for Carers as well as those with dementia but will try and be as understanding as I can after knowing how you have lived with this awful disease. Thank you.

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    1. Thank you for the Yorkshire hug. I’ve just read your blog Trundle to York. You mention a discussion about blue badges. I do hope there’s a chance it will be approved. My husband can easily walk but is completely unable to locate our car in the car park. I looked into getting one a few years ago (a suggestion from an Admiral Nurses pamphlet) but it was obvious he would be refused as he is certainly mobile. I have lost him in a Tesco car park (and in the shop too for that matter) fairly recently so hope it would help parking closer to the shop. I keep my fingers crossed.

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  9. Hi Wendy,
    I have recently started reading your inspirational book. You Must be an incredible lady.
    I have a special affinity with your book as my mum has had dementia since she was 58 ( now 74).
    I would love to meet you in person, is this possible?
    Thank you Jilly

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  10. Hi Wendy, I have read your book it was a great read and helped me to understand clearer about the disease. just recently being diagnosed with Alzheimer’s at 54 is quite scary, so your book made me more positive rather than negative as there is a lot of negativity out there about Dementia.
    I have now passed your book to my Mum to read as she keeps asking me how long I have left?
    At this moment I struggle some days with my diagnosis, but when I think of you, you inspire me, I am a strong person and I will fight for as long as I can, some days are a struggle but I have the good days too, so I try to hold on too my good days and bin the bad ones.
    Wish you all the best & thank you 😊 G

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  11. Drar Wendy. Thank You. Excuse me for my bad english.
    I just read your bok and i am crying, crying and crying. I am a 55 years old women having a stroke 1,5 years ago and i have not been diagnosed demens but i can really recignice myself in your Word. That You wrote aboute the small changes in your memory and Wayne to handle the changes. Also the Wayne You describe your self when You were healty. It is almost reading about me. For me it CAN be residual symtoms afternoon the stroke but the neurologist say it isnt. On tuesday next week it is time for me for a x-ray (computer tomography) to exclude demens but i am not sure that I can exclude it.
    I am really like You, i am expert in solving problems and You have in your book showed me that it is possible to displace the disease. With the right attitude. Thank You again.
    Sincerely, Yvonne Sivén ❤️❤️❤️

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  12. Hi Wendy, I read your book in one sitting, loved it, I work in a dementia home ,it has given me great inspiration, thank you for sharing your dementia journey 💖

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  13. Hi Wendy , I just listened to you being interviewed in the radio as I was driving this afternoon and it was wonderful to hear you talking so openly about yourself . It helped me and made me feel hopeful for whatever my life may bring .

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  14. Hi Wendy,

    I just finished your book and wanted to tell you how much I loved it, and how much I learned from it. I am 46, and have a rare and aggressive cancer that has left me with lots of time to read, and a desire to seek out others whose path has been disrupted by disease.

    My favorite quote in your book was the lady who wrote to you, thanking you for keeping “your tail lights on.” This I think is the task of all of us who face the challenge of early decline, to keep going forward, with our lights on. Thank you for sharing your journey with us all, and much love from Australia.

    Jo

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