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Hello and welcome to my blog. On the 31st July 2014 I was diagnosed with Young onset dementia. I may not have much of a short-term memory anymore but that date is one I’ll never forget.

Me - 59 years young with my wonderful daughters:)
Me – 59 years young with my wonderful daughters:)

I’m 62 years young, live happily alone in Yorkshire, have 2 daughters and I continued to work full time in the NHS until the end of March 2015, when I chose to take early retirement to enable me to enjoy being me while I’m able. I have never ‘tweeted’, ‘blogged’ or ‘facebooked’ in my life but since I was diagnosed, everything else in my life has changed, so why not this. I hope you find my ramblings of interest.

I started this blog to allow me, in the first instance, to write all my thoughts before they’re lost. Luckily the part of my brain that allows me to type hasn’t broken yet and I find that easier than talking. I have calendars that take care of the future but this blog serves as a reminder of what I’ve done and said in the past – it now serves as my memory. If anyone chooses to follow my ramblings it will serve as a way of raising awareness.

It will hopefully convey the helplessness of those diagnosed with dementia, as there is no cure – the end is inevitable. However, I’m also hoping I can convey that, although we’ve been diagnosed, people like me still have a substantial contribution to make; we still have a sense of humour; we still have feelings. I’m hoping to show the reality of trying to cope on a day-to-day basis with the ever-changing environment that dementia throws at those diagnosed with the condition. Living as well as you can with dementia is all about adapting. Adapting to new ways to enable us to live better for longer with dementia.

I can type as though dementia never entered my world as that part of my brain has not yet been affected, but that often works against me as people question my diagnosis. All I can say is, live a day in my shoes and I’m sure the reality will dawn.

What I want is not sympathy. What I want is simply to raise awareness.

I’m now the proud author of the Sunday Times Best Seller, Somebody I Used to Know, which just goes to show, you should never give up on yourself.

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If you prefer to comment by email please feel free – wendy7713@icloud.com or you can find me on Twitter   @WendyPMitchell

Billy, my daughter's cat - a calming influence in my life. Billy, my daughter’s cat – a calming influence in my life.

 

 

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  1. My beautiful husband who I love so very much is slipping away from me little by little. Your book has made me determined not to do everything for him, neither to finish his sentences but rather to find familiar things to help him to find his way back . I understand a little better now. Thank you.

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  2. Wendy, I have just finished your book and wanted to pass on how brilliant it was. I admire your courage and determination to document your experiences so we can all learn from them. I feel like I know so much more now about dementia and will have a much better understanding around relatives/friends that have the condition. Love and best wishes to you Natalie.

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  3. Hi Wendy! I just finished your book as well. You are one tenacious gal! Your story has heartbreaking moments but also hopeful ones….ones that I found interesting both personally (my Mom is in long term care with dementia) and professionally. I am an occupational therapist with a goal of improving people’s’ safety, independence and function and modifying their environments to enhance their lives in all areas. You came up with several simple, practical ways to maintain your safety and independence. I do have a question… as you started to lose your spoken word, did your understanding of language also change?

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    1. My spoken word is still there just differently…much slower, everything is slowe so my understanding of language is still as it was just takes longer to process so important to give us time….🤗x

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  4. Just finished your incredible book. My Dad lived with dementia for many years, each day brought something new -sometimes wonderful, sometimes heartwrenching. Your insight would have been so helpful but now I can direct others to it. Thankyou for sharing you living your life .

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    1. Hi Wendy. Your book was recommended, although I have not been able to read it yet. I to worked in health and was happiest as a CNS in a dementia unit. From what I have read so far, yours is a refreshing tale. Sending you loads of sparkle. Annie. Central Coast. NSW Australia

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  5. Hi Wendy,

    I have just read your book – or even listened to the audio version of it at Audible. It had me in tears, laughs and everything in between.

    You are an incredibly strong and wise woman! 🙂

    Thank you for sharing your stories and inviting us (the readers) to look at the world from a different perspective.

    Many many thanks

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  6. Hello Wendy… I have just finished your book.. what an amazing book with such insights .. loved it and also the details of some of your trips having been on holiday from New Zealand to see my daughter … I have also been to some of the places … continue to take care ..

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  7. Hello Wendy, I just finished your brilliant book (the Finnish translation) and really enjoyed it. You have found incredible ways to help your everyday life and I’m sure it’s helping others as well. Your book also reminded me personally to find time for things that I enjoy right now, at 38 years old, as who knows what might happen in the future. Thank you ❤

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  8. Hello Wendy.. wow!… your story is a legacy of your courage and tenacity, providing so much understanding into dementia life tips and care. Thankyou for sharing.

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  9. I too have just finished your book Wendy! & feel you are a friend now = it has been good to get to know you! It would be good to keep up with you – “Pen pal like”Any of us could get the disease – like we could ( i have had) cancer etc.I am blessed to be 77 now, thus any thing thrown @ me – i seem to be like YOU= cup half full! God bless you , does your faith help?It does for me! I ramble on – sorry. Cheerio from Moira.

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    1. Well I’m not sure really as I see my page but there is a search icon (little magnifying glass) and I typed in Jan 2019 and it came up with Jan’s blogs…I’m not very technical I’m afraid – sorry…🙄

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  10. Wendy I am a student studying dementia and how it impacts on those living with dementia. I am going to buy your book. You are an inspiration. Instead of giving up you decided to take dementia head on and share your experienceswith the world. Thats not only being brave, but shows a level of generosity and maturity in you. It shows that you are strong and have embraced the the idea that disability does not mean disability. You are setting a trend for those of us learning and having to work with and support those living with dementia. Thank you. I will definitely have to find your blogg.

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  11. Hello Wendy, I’ve just finished reading your book and I would like to say you are one amazing lady. I have been caring for my mother for the last few years, she has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s but is totally unaware she has a problem. I recognise lots of what you say in mum and more besides, your book has helped me to clarify my understanding and queries of the disease. Thank you and best wishes x

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  12. Hi Wendy and followers, I work in Australia in services providing support to people with diagnosis of Dementia. We have to wear face masks at the moment and it is causing some of our cliebts great stress🙁.We’ve looked at transparent masks and wearing large photos on our chests without much joy. Any other ideas will be gratefully recieved:)

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    1. It’s so difficult at the moment for all of us Steve…..I saw someone wearing one of the plastic medical face coverings so all their face was viewable which seems preferable. Masks show how much we rely on seeing the human mouth to interpret what people are saying and the masks sadly take away so much plus make it hard to hear…..

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  13. Hi Wendy, I read your book in 2019. This year, my sister was diagnosed with early onset at 57. Your lens has helped me to connect with the impact of this disease. I have gained great strength from you to be able to support her and all our family. Go well x

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