7 years ago today, my life changed……

I usually automatically remember this anniversary but this year it was going to pass me by unnoticed until I got a txt from my daughter…..

It’s also my other best friends birthday – happy birthday Julie! And thankfully I didn’t forget that thanks to reminders.

You see, today July 31st 7 years ago I received that devastating diagnosis of dementia. If I’d have believed the medics, my life was over. But unbeknown to me then, that devastating diagnosis opened up a new world, obviously not one I would have chosen, but still a wonderful world with lots of new wonderful friends I call my playmates; with people like Innovations in Dementia who enable and encourage us. To all of them I say, thank you 🙏

But what fun I’ve had in 7years…..yes, every day is a struggle, every day dementia reminds me of its presence, yes it’s a bummer of a diagnosis BUT if all you see are the negatives what a waste of the life there is still waiting to be lived!

Here’s just some of my highlights I found as I flicked through my photographs this morning….the detail has long vanished from my mind, but the emotions the images stir are still there…

Meeting Hollywood star Julianne Moore at the premier of Still Alice in 2015

In 2016 I moved to my wonderful village with all its beauty, all its characters and all its love – I couldn’t believe the date when I saw that as I thought I’d only been here a couple of years 😂

In 2017 I went up in a glider – a birthday present from my lovely daughters and Stuart

AND later that year walked on fire for charity

2018 was another special year as that was the year my book was published in hardback, meaning I’d already had a year of the lovely friendship of my partner in writing, Anna Wharton….

2019 the paperback version of my book was released

AND I became Dr Dr thanks to Hull and Bradford Universities

AND I did my tandem parachute jump for charity..

2020 will become known as the year we all hibernated due to Covid, BUT that enforced hibernation allowed me to write my second book with Anna and is due out next January….more on that in the autumn…..

Which bring us to this year, 2021…..when my latest adventure was my tandem paraglide

So you see, good can come out of bad, but it won’t happen automatically, you have to go out and search for adventures, search for life. There are so many things I can’t do now that I can no longer list them, but I never dwell on them. I have no control over what I can’t do. Instead I focus on having adventures today and if today is a bad day…..tomorrow may be better….

Moral of the tale – never give up on yourself, no matter what people say to you, let them do that if they so wish. Believe in yourself and you can do anything you want……..

About wendy7713

On the 31st July 2014 I was diagnosed with Young Onset Dementia. I may not have much of a short term memory anymore but that date is one I’ll never forget. I’m 58 years young, live happily alone in Yorkshire, have 2 daughters and I’m currently still in full time employment in the NHS. However, I’m now in the process of taking early retirement to give me a chance of enjoying life while I’m still me. I've started this blog to allow me, in the first instance, to write all my thoughts before they’re lost. If anyone chooses to follow my ramblings it will serve as a way of raising awareness on the lack of research into Alzheimer's. It will hopefully convey the helplessness of those diagnosed with dementia, as there is no cure – the end is inevitable. However, I’m also hoping I can convey that, although we've been diagnosed, people like me still have a substantial contribution to make; we still have a sense of humour; we sill have feelings. I’m hoping to show the reality of trying to cope on a day to day basis with the ever-changing environment that dementia throws at those diagnosed with the condition. What I want is not sympathy. What I want is simply to raise awareness.

56 thoughts on “7 years ago today, my life changed……

  1. What a wonderfully encouraging post, Wendy! You are such a great role model. Long may you enjoy your adventures. I also LOVE the photos you take, especially of the natural world around your village. You were very encouraging to me regarding my beloved Mum, who sadly passed away in the 2nd lockdown. Your book helped us as a great deal as a family .

    Liked by 1 person

  2. Wendy, you are such an inspiration. You’ve probably heard that so much and roll your eyes but I am so inspired by you. I have a worrying family history of Alzheimer’s. My mum, her sisters… so many. I hope that if it happens to me I’ll remember to emulate you. I think you’re wonderful.

    Liked by 1 person

  3. Some wonderful memories for you Wendy, despite dementia, or even because of it! You’ve proved well and truly that there is life after Alzheimer’s!

    Liked by 1 person

  4. Thank you Wendy, you have contributed so much to all our lives. Such everyday courage and joy you share with us every day. What a list of achievements…you put us all to shame. Anne

    Liked by 1 person

  5. What a truly inspirational post Wendy 🤩 I love that you find positives in so many ways. You have helped me to have a much better understanding of what living with dementia can be like. My mum was diagnosed in 2015 and I try to muster your positivity to help her have a better life than the so called professionals ever let us hope for. Thankyou Wendy for sharing your journey 🤗xxx

    Liked by 1 person

  6. Hi Wendy, I’m so pleased to hear you have another book on the way, I’m looking forward to it! Your first book was such a great insight into dementia and the simple things we can all do to support those around us living with it. It taught me a lot, thank you.

    Liked by 1 person

  7. You are a truly inspiring lady! I have recommended your book to many and enjoy your blogs which are humbling. Seven years since diagnosis, wow, please be proud of and take pride in what you’ve achieved.

    Liked by 1 person

  8. You’ve been an inspiration from the day I first read your blog. I love and admire your positivity and your fabulous smile always makes me smile. I like nothing more than ‘joining you’ on your illustrated strolls and I look forward to many more. Congratulations on all you’ve achieved in those seven years. You’re amazing Wendy. Keep posting and keep taking those lovely photos. Thank you.

    Liked by 1 person

  9. Your blog should be compulsory reading for anyone newly diagnosed, as well as their friends and family. I just wish I’d known someone like you when my mum was diagnosed, even though she had gone much further into her dementia experience than you. It would have given me hope and the realisation that it really needn’t have been like it was. You are an incredibly inspirational lady and I’m privileged to have ‘known’ you in the world of blogging. xx

    Liked by 1 person

  10. I am inspired by your positive message as I live with the diagnosis of Mild Cognitive Impairment and the knowledge that this likely will lead to a diagnosis of Dementia in my future. Thank you.

    Liked by 1 person

  11. Hello Wendy, well congratulations to you for being so active, positive, thoughtful, and inspiring in the face of the dreaded dementia. Wishing you many more happy experiences.

    Liked by 1 person

  12. You are a true inspiration Wendy!! Thanks for your book, all your posts but most of all for your refusal to accept what people told you!

    Liked by 1 person

  13. Cant wait for the 2nd book! Hope it’s full of encouraging wisdom and bravery like the last one! And please put some of your beautiful piccies in, won’t you?

    Liked by 1 person

  14. Wendy, you are a role-model and inspiration to so many! Thank you for all that you say and do, and may all your ‘trundles’ (on land and in the air!) find your way back!
    Big longie love x

    Liked by 1 person

  15. Wendy, you are awesome. Just looking at the things that you’ve achieved since your diagnosis, your involvement with the different groups you visit, your piccies, and your book, I really am in awe. I so look forward to your blog. I read it to my friend, and show her your piccies. She has dementia too. You’ve inspired her to go riding in a sidecar as she can no longer ride her motorbike. Thank you.

    Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.