Saying goodbye to a very special friend……

So today at midday is Sylvias funeral, saying goodbye to my best friend was always going to be hard but Covid made it even harder, but please read to the end…

The rules stated a max of 30, but now the local area has set the number at 16, so obviously her familiy had to take priority. But how sad for the family not to witness the love of many more who would have come under normal circumstances. 

So many families have had to go through this situation during the last year, I know. But not to be there feel doubly sad.  No hugs, no shared stories, the family having to go through the trauma alone. 

I’ll be watching it on zoom so at least I’ll be apart of it if only from a distance. I’ll be holding a bar of the confectionary Turkish Delight. A strange choice you may think. But when we worked together, it was our private joke that at a certain time of the month, we would both bring in a bar of Turkish Delight, warning the other that today might not be the day to pick a fight with us and for no other reason, than we both liked it. It always made us laugh and it became our joke for ever more…we often shared a Turkish Delight….

My dear friend Sylvia

We shared so much laughter

Shared tears of joy 

And tears of sadness

…….

Always there for one another

Even when miles apart

I’ll never forget our years together

What will I miss? Where do I start…

……..

One very special lady

One very special friend

Thoughtful, kind and caring

Even at the end

……..

So let’s celebrate this special life

Let’s remember all her smiles

Let’s remember all the good times

Let’s remember her with style …….

P.S – I wrote this once I knew the date of Sylvia’s funeral and at the eleventh hour the crematorium changed its rules to allow all the people she wanted there to attend. So me, Sarah, Gemma and Stuart will be there after all. I’ll take my Turkish Delight with me and hold it in my hand instead of on my lap watching zoom. It’ll be a long day, a long journey there and back, but worth it to say goodbye in person…..and I know Sylvia will be watching down to make sure everything goes to her plans…..

P.P.S David and Sylvia shared an eclectic love of music, there was always music in the house., including Oasis…

About wendy7713

On the 31st July 2014 I was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s. I may not have much of a short term memory anymore but that date is one I’ll never forget. I’m 58 years young, live happily alone in Yorkshire, have 2 daughters and I’m currently still in full time employment in the NHS. However, I’m now in the process of taking early retirement to give me a chance of enjoying life while I’m still me. I've started this blog to allow me, in the first instance, to write all my thoughts before they’re lost. If anyone chooses to follow my ramblings it will serve as a way of raising awareness on the lack of research into Alzheimer's. It will hopefully convey the helplessness of those diagnosed with dementia, as there is no cure – the end is inevitable. However, I’m also hoping I can convey that, although we've been diagnosed, people like me still have a substantial contribution to make; we still have a sense of humour; we sill have feelings. I’m hoping to show the reality of trying to cope on a day to day basis with the ever-changing environment that dementia throws at those diagnosed with the condition. What I want is not sympathy. What I want is simply to raise awareness.

34 thoughts on “Saying goodbye to a very special friend……

  1. Thank you for sharing this with us, Wendy. I am sure you will give her a great send off, and that you take the time to enjoy your Turkish delight. I hope it is a happy as well as a sad occasion. She seemed like a wonderful person and a great friend. A life well lived; she will be missed, but never forgotten.

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  2. Oh Wendy your blog bought tears to my eyes but also made me smile. How wonderful to have had such a lovely friendship and so pleased you can actually go and say goodbye. A very sad day but you will have some wonderful memories and my thoughts are with you. Sylvia would have wanted you to remember her with love and not to be sad. Keep smiling.
    Audrey

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  3. I’m so pleased you were able to attend her funeral Wendy. I hope it brings you comfort in your time of loss. Sylvia sounds like an amazing friend to have had. Love,hugs & strength to all her family & friends. xx

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  4. So pleased you were able to be with Sylvia’s family as you all bid her farewell and remember her together. The Turkish Delight made me chuckle. Hope the journey and the emotion of it all does not leave you too exhausted, definitely time for a few quiet days to take it really easy for a while.
    Best wishes
    Rosemary

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  5. Wendy I’m so sorry for the loss of your beautiful friend but am pleased to hear you and the lovely fun filled Turkish delight can be there 🥰 Sending lots of love xx

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  6. My thoughts with you dear Wendy. Yes you will be exhausted, but so lovely you can be there in person. It’s so tough losing our loved ones, but thank you for sharing this very special friendship with us. You were blessed to have each other and that bond can never be broken. Bless you 🤗

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  7. I am so sorry for the loss of your amazing friend, it leaves a gaping hole in our souls💔
    When you remember her it will be with joy and love and there will be moments when the memories roll down your cheeks and you will look up and see her in ever day moments. Sending you the biggest hug 💕
    Ali🇨🇦

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  8. We said goodbye earlier this month to a very special niece. Because of Covid I wasn’t able to travel from NZ to the UK. How I loved that young woman, and how I wanted to be there with tge family. I am so glad you were able to be there in tge end.

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  9. Thank you for sharing, Wendy. You and your friend Sylvia had a very special connection.
    I’m so pleased you were there to say goodbye. Sending you love ❤️

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  10. So pleased for you that you were able to be there. I had a similar situation this week, with a dear friend who went to be with her Lord earlier last month. Initially I knew I would not be able to be there, the limit being 30, and many family and friends possibly wanting to be there. Then last Sunday I had the lovely surprise of being told there was a place for me! So yesterday I got the train and travelled down to Portsmouth, for a graveside committal. I was so pleased to be there, even though it was a very long day, and I am feeling it today!!

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