Social Care has to change, no doubt about it. But what has to change? I’m involved with Neil Crowther, helped by my wonderful enabler Philly, in a project that’s trying to change the way people think about Social care. They’re doing some wonderful research through a company that finds out, not only what people think, but why people think as they do. Whether they can be influenced to change their views
I’m at the early stages of involvement, I think 🙄….so I don’t have any answers just thoughts that have come to me whilst in this strange prison I find myself in…albeit a very nice prison, but then I’m lucky…..I’m talking about my village of course….we’re not perfect by any means, but the majority of people ‘care’. I’m not talking about a ‘dementia friendly community’, I’m talking about a ‘people friendly community’, as everyone needs to feel cared for….
We all want people to care…we want to feel part of something, be it large or small. Where we live and our surroundings can play a huge part in our social well being.
No one situation is right for everyone. Each person has their own preference or sometime their situation gives them little choice of where they live..
I’ve often wondered what this strange time would have been like if I’d have still lived in York? 🤔
As I’ve said many times before, pre dementia I was an extremely private person. Now I’m been overtaken by this gregarious alien, I need to know people are around me who make me feel safe. Before Covid existed I would be travelling about nearly every day of the week, meeting different people, at events, on the train, meeting, listening and talking to lots of people. But that’s all disappeared. Of course it’s disappeared for many, not just me.
Instead of enjoying the rare quiet days where I had me and silence for company, those silent days far outnumber the days when I talk to anyone, creating a strange loneliness …one like I’ve never felt before.
I know I have many zooms I could join, but I need to feel peoples presence. Zoom has been a life saver for so many playmates, and want the zoom way to continue long after Covid for very valid reasons, for those who find travelling difficult or simply don’t like travelling…….but for me, I adore travelling and the contriveness ( I know that word doesn’t sound right but I can’t think of the right word)……a set time to ‘have a conversation’…..instead of the randomness of a few minutes chat in the street and then a goodbye. Just being around people is sometimes enough for me; hearing other voices. Unfortunately for me, yet fortunately for so many others, the Zoom world will be with us for a very long time and that makes me sad…I know I’ll have to overcome those feelings or I’ll miss out on so much, but I also know it would never be my first choice.
Loneliness is a social care issue. So how have I coped with that? By feeling embraced by my village community……..yesterdays blog was the perfect example…when the professionals let us down, sometimes through no fault of their own, we have to help one another.
Having said that, I’m not giving the government the nod to relinquish all responsibility. The medical world has let me and many others down badly during this Covid time. Of course they’ve been working their socks off against Covid and lack of resources has meant every other condition has sadly been neglected in many cases. So I want people to realise that Social Care doesn’t exist purely for the vulnerable but everyone is affected.
Just a simple example here….as well as my village Facebook page, I also post on the Beverley Facebook page, nt very often but occasionally. The other week, I rediscovered a lovely flower shop which had moved to bigger premises. I took some photos while I was there and then posted them on both Facebook pages…..I simply said how wonderful it was, said how we should support local businesses and then gave the name of the street…..but instead of Lord Roberts Road, I put Lord Mayors Walk…….🙈…..for me, I used to love running along the latter when I lived in York and it must have stuck in my head.
The villagers didn’t comment, they knew where I meant, what did it matter? But I got a barage of insults on the Beverley Facebook page, some really nasty comments.
“Who in their right mind would put a post with the wrong address”
“We don’t have a Mayor so how can we have a Lord Mayors Walk”
And after explaining I used to live in York…“Go back to York if you’re gonna get it wrong”
What makes people make nasty comments? Is it the anonymity of social media? It made me very sad. It brought my mood immediately down. Maybe they don’t think of the effect words can have on people. The downside of social media, where it seems to be a free for all. They certainly don’t think how THEY may have affected someone’s mental health and mental health is certainly a Social Care issue, making social care everyone’s issue.
So maybe the title of this blog should have been “Our Community, Our Future”..…but maybe that will create it’s own post code lottery of occurrence as there will always be those who don’t see it as a shared responsibility…..🤔….but then a ‘Community’ comes in many guises – where you live is only one of them. Communities on line, Peer support and many others..as I said at the beginning, just my initial thoughts….
So I’m looking forward to seeing this ‘Social Care Future’ project developing. As a poster they put on Twitter said:
I know I do….how about you….?