I know I usually try and be upbeat…but this poem was written after hearing the heartbreaking news that one of my playmates from Minds and Voices, Rita,  had taken her last breathe…. just states my greatest fear at the mo and the greatest fear of many of my playmates living with dementia…..and every now and then it whittles in my head…..so I thought, if I write it down, it might not appear so often….

When this is all over

Will we remember what to do?

When we’re allowed to trundle

When we’re allowed to crowd…..


When this is all over

Will we be able once more

To take a simple trip

To walk into a crowded room


When this is all over

We’ll all need support

To discover a new normal

To discover the world once more…….


or will it be too late………?….sadly no one knows….

Dedicated to my lovely playmate Rita, the gorgeous lady that could light up the room with her smile……..


About wendy7713

On the 31st July 2014 I was diagnosed with Young Onset Dementia. I may not have much of a short term memory anymore but that date is one I’ll never forget. I’m 58 years young, live happily alone in Yorkshire, have 2 daughters and I’m currently still in full time employment in the NHS. However, I’m now in the process of taking early retirement to give me a chance of enjoying life while I’m still me. I've started this blog to allow me, in the first instance, to write all my thoughts before they’re lost. If anyone chooses to follow my ramblings it will serve as a way of raising awareness on the lack of research into Alzheimer's. It will hopefully convey the helplessness of those diagnosed with dementia, as there is no cure – the end is inevitable. However, I’m also hoping I can convey that, although we've been diagnosed, people like me still have a substantial contribution to make; we still have a sense of humour; we sill have feelings. I’m hoping to show the reality of trying to cope on a day to day basis with the ever-changing environment that dementia throws at those diagnosed with the condition. What I want is not sympathy. What I want is simply to raise awareness.

24 thoughts on “When……Poem…

  1. I am so sorry Wendy. In these times it is hard to come to terms with loss when there is nobody around to give you a hug. I am sending you a virtual hug with love. Stay save, take care lots of love 💕 xxx

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  2. So sad for you Wendy…a huge loss for you and Rita’s family.
    A very brave, but lively poem. Stay strong and positive. Together well get through this in time.

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  3. Such sad news Wendy, a lovely poem in memory of your dear friend Rita. This certainly highlights how important Minds and Voices is for friendship and support. Take good care, sandra

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  4. So sorry to hear of the loss of your friend, Wendy; your poem is a lovely tribute to her. I also wonder what our “new normal” will be like.

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  5. So sorry for the loss of one of your gorgeous playmate’s, what a beautiful smile she had too 🥰
    Beautiful poem Wendy & so true it’s hard now to imagine a ‘normal’ world. Sending love & strength to everyone out there 😘

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  6. Hi Wendy,

    Your poem expresses well feelings I can identify with. I walked down a High Street yesterday to pick up a prescription and it was awful to see the closed-up shops, the small and the great names, and wonder about all those whose lives may never be the same again. It highlights the fragility of life behind a facade of strength and dependability.

    But I don’t want to add further to this sense of unease. I have held back until now to speak out of respect for the fact that this is your site, but feel I must tell you about something that gives me undimmed confidence in the future and comfort in the present.

    Tonight is the anniversary of the last supper. The date was Nisan 14 according to the Jewish calendar of Jesus’ day, which corresponds to our April 7 this year. Why is this significant? Because what Jesus accomplished through his death opened up the way to redeem mankind and guarantee future blessings earth-wide and a permanent solution to suffering.

    A service that many around the world will ‘attend’ tonight at home can be watched here:

    I hope you will not think ill of me for this. Rather, I just want to offer something that helps to make sense of our common predicament. Sometimes in life we have to take a risk if we want to reach another’s heart and share what we feel is worthwhile, and your poem sounded to me like a crie de coeur I should not and could not ignore.

    Sincere best wishes,


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