My calm Christmas……….with Billy …..

Not a reblog today but a new one from me and Billy as Christmas creeps ever closer……..It can be so stressful for some….

As I say in my book….

“…..I’ve learnt so much from animals. This change in my personality, this softening in one part of my brain, has meant I’ve made time to sit and stop and watch, much like they do. Animals lead a simple life – they live in the moment, and that’s what I’ve found I have in common with Billy, an appreciation if now. Many fears have left me now. Perhaps it’s because nothing can be more frightening than dementia. I live everyday with the unknown, which is possibly why I’m not afraid anymore; of cats, of the dark, of the disease…….”

Dementia has taught me the pointlessness of stressing. Most things we stress about are minute compared to the grand scheme of things.

So if you’ve forgotten to buy something for Christmas, so what, simply do without. If you’ve forgotten to send someone a card, don’t fret, simply send them a late greeting and apologise. If you’ve not got time to wrap presents, don’t wrap them, hide them for people to find……children, just like Billy can get as much enjoyment out of hide and seek as any expensive toy…just make it fun…….

This is suppose to be a time of joy and happiness, so don’t let stress get in the way. For those less lucky, pop a card through the letterbox, knock and give them a small gift, simply smile and say hello in the street. I know I’m lucky to have my daughters and Billy over Christmas but random acts of kindness can go an awful long way this time of year….one town has a Christmas fairy hiding envelopes of money and parcels around the town for people to find. They probably get as much joy out of doing it as those finding them…..

I struggle when I see lots of presents that need wrapping so I do it in small chunks. I’m not that good anymore. I used to be able to wrap presents beautifully but not now, but what does it matter? I use festive tissue paper as it’s easier and doesn’t look such a mess when I get in a pickle.  One day I’ll set aside a few to be wrapped, the next day I get the wrapping stuff ready and the third day I wrap…..small chunks has always worked for me….

So don’t make Christmas a big deal, it is after all one day of the year….and I really can’t wait until normality resumes as everything goes quiet and discombobulated over the next 2 weeks….I begin to get worried at the ‘not doing’….having to sit in silence and wait for the world to wake up again…..although I don’t, but that’s what it feels like….

But I’m sure Billy will bring me back my sparkle again as he would say that if I’ve forgotten his food then I need to go out immediately, find a shop that’s opened and if nowhere is opened, wake up the owner….😂…..

Billy has always guessed which present is his….every year under the tree, he looks at all the boxes and then sits on the one that is his…..I wonder if he will have any trouble guessing which is his this year……..🤔😻

About wendy7713

On the 31st July 2014 I was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s. I may not have much of a short term memory anymore but that date is one I’ll never forget. I’m 58 years young, live happily alone in Yorkshire, have 2 daughters and I’m currently still in full time employment in the NHS. However, I’m now in the process of taking early retirement to give me a chance of enjoying life while I’m still me. I've started this blog to allow me, in the first instance, to write all my thoughts before they’re lost. If anyone chooses to follow my ramblings it will serve as a way of raising awareness on the lack of research into Alzheimer's. It will hopefully convey the helplessness of those diagnosed with dementia, as there is no cure – the end is inevitable. However, I’m also hoping I can convey that, although we've been diagnosed, people like me still have a substantial contribution to make; we still have a sense of humour; we sill have feelings. I’m hoping to show the reality of trying to cope on a day to day basis with the ever-changing environment that dementia throws at those diagnosed with the condition. What I want is not sympathy. What I want is simply to raise awareness.

12 thoughts on “My calm Christmas……….with Billy …..

  1. So lovely to read your wise words for Christmas. Whatever our disability or challenges as a supporter of a family member or friend your words are helpful for all of us . Like Billy, my little dog enjoys the moments in my day when I just sit and relax, words aren’t needed!
    Have a lovely peaceful Christmas Wendy. X Marianne

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  2. You are an inspiration Wendy whatever time of year. You blogs are so informative and full of humour. Long may you stay well and happy trundling up and down the country teaching us all a thing or two. xx

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  3. Wise words for all of us Wendy. You and Billy seem to have the Christmas thing sussed. Have a lovely Christmas and very best wishes for a peaceful New Year. Lots of love. Xxx

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  4. I can tell my Mum needs calm too, Wendy. Thank you for all your insights. My sister and I really appreciate them. I hope you have a wonderful family Christmas.
    from Jennette in Sydney

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