Putting myself through chaos for a glimpse of Christmas….

For those who may not know….I’m a Christmasholic……..🎄

I’m also a supporter of all things local and believe in supporting local events, local shops, local businesses, because that’s how communities thrive and remain…..

So Sunday was Beverley Christmas Festival. Big events with lots of people are a big challenge for me and ones I don’t usually put myself through. I use to adore them but the noise, the volume of people is overwhelming for many and definitely overwhelming for me,…However…..I am a Christmasholic and adore seeing lights and smiles and hearing children’s laughter.

Saturday I went to the peace of the Minster for the Christmas Tree Festival and it was glorious with hundreds of trees and carols playing in the background.

I hadn’t intended to go the the Sunday festival but woke up to a lovely sunny day and thought…I’ll give it a go. I can always escape if I needed to….so I rang the taxi number and they immediately knew it was me and my outing was sorted as no village buses run on a Sunday

I don’t remember ever getting stressed at Christmas, such is my love of it. Even when I didn’t have any money and had 2 small children it was always a joy as I spent my time making things or converting something previously loved into something that would be loved again …..so Christmas was never a stressful affair…..I always made a Christmas menu for the girls detailing our day….including the time to get up!! And lunch was whatever we wanted along with a picnic tea of home made goodies…..I just loved Christmas❤️

So Sunday, I mentally prepared myself for chaos and confusion so that anything good was a bonus…..I always think I can do anything as long as I have a plan B for when things go wrong. But I also have to feel confident on the day and I felt good today that the kindness of strangers would work in my favour if all else failed….

The taxi lady picked me up and we chatted happily as we trundled into town.She’d been in her can since 6am and said it had been chaos all morning…we reached the outskirts of town when the traffic backed up and we came to a stand still.”Maybe the train barriers are down”…I hopefully said….”Do you think so?” She smiled…..it was not the case. It was the sheer volume of traffic…..😳

I eventually decided to get out and walk through the Minster in the hope her next job would be in the opposite direction and she could turn round……

You could hear the noise as I approached the town…..the music, the general noise of people just getting louder. I decided to pay a visit to Tyler and Black first in the hope of a quiet spell as it was only 10.30am🙄. A lovely little shop run by Jane Tyler. I met her through Twitter and she’s designed a mug especially for me with some of the proceeds going to Dementia UK. She spotted me through the crowd and we had our Christmas hug

Before she gave me my pressie of one of the mugs

I’ve met some wonderful people through the world of Twitter who I would never have met in any other circumstances, and Jane was one. She even told me to pop back to the shop if I needed to escape the hoardes……❤️

After that I trundle along North Bar taking in the delights of the stalls. Thankfully the rain held off so trade was brisk in all directions.

It’s much better if I’m alone in these circumstances as I can go into my own little world, I don’t have to worry about losing anyone, and can escape at any time without letting anyone else down.

I went into St Marys Church for a bit of peace. All the charity stalls were in there, but they’d kept the centre for people to just sit and listen to the carols….magical…..I wasn’t alone as many others sat alone simply taking in the peace and calmness

Once recharged I headed back into the throng and joined the children looking at the reindeers near the bandstand

The squeals of delight were a joy and some were guessing which one was Rudolf….

The rest of the stalls were a blur, but all the stall holders were dressed for the occasion and had made an enormous effort for the day….

The fine weather hopefully meant their takings were high as well. People had come from far and wide in coaches, by train and car. So much rides on a day like today for so many people and I think it was a success.

Having had my fix of Christmas I shuffled my way through the crowds back to the taxi office. The lady immediately told me to come and sit in the office in the warm as the streets were still gridlocked and taxis were finding it hard to get anywhere. I then heard her ring customer after customer apologising for the late arrival of their taxi and apologising to callers for being fully booked for the afternoon and was shocked at what I heard…..people were rude, were angry and taking it out on the woman. How can people be so unkind? The traffic wasn’t her fault, it wasn’t any of the taxi drivers fault, yet they received a barrage of rudeness.😔…..

I’d had a lovely couple of hours, yes it was chaotic, yes I did have to wait for my taxi, but I would never have dreamt in a million years of being rude to anyone. Dementia has taught me that stressing gets you nowhere and life is too short to be unkind….

Once I got home I unpacked my bag with the few bits of Christmas I’d bought. Out came the mug that Jane had made for me ….a beautiful truthful sentiment and looked very nice posing for its photo next to my snowman……

They may not remember what you said, but they’ll always remember how you made them feel”

p.s If you like the mug and wish to buy one, you can contact Jane via Twitter @JaneTylerHQ or via the contact page of the shops web site


About wendy7713

On the 31st July 2014 I was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s. I may not have much of a short term memory anymore but that date is one I’ll never forget. I’m 58 years young, live happily alone in Yorkshire, have 2 daughters and I’m currently still in full time employment in the NHS. However, I’m now in the process of taking early retirement to give me a chance of enjoying life while I’m still me. I've started this blog to allow me, in the first instance, to write all my thoughts before they’re lost. If anyone chooses to follow my ramblings it will serve as a way of raising awareness on the lack of research into Alzheimer's. It will hopefully convey the helplessness of those diagnosed with dementia, as there is no cure – the end is inevitable. However, I’m also hoping I can convey that, although we've been diagnosed, people like me still have a substantial contribution to make; we still have a sense of humour; we sill have feelings. I’m hoping to show the reality of trying to cope on a day to day basis with the ever-changing environment that dementia throws at those diagnosed with the condition. What I want is not sympathy. What I want is simply to raise awareness.

15 thoughts on “Putting myself through chaos for a glimpse of Christmas….

  1. Hello Wendy,
    I liked your post very much. What you said about stress and about rude people…so true! Actually, most of all I liked you with your ‘antlers’😉. Christmas greetings🎄, Lilli

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    1. I too loved your post Wendy as I always do. My husband would feel exactly like you and in fact we attended the tea cosy dementia cafe Christmas coffee morning on Saturday in Rothwell near Wakefield. It was veer noisy but fun there were 900 people present and I forgot to take earplugs to soften the noise for him. You are so right about aupporting local events and we enjoyed hearing about St Mary’s and the Minster we often go to concerts at both those beautiful places hope you go on enjoying Christmas activities over the next couple of weeks

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  2. Felt I was there with you Wendy. Then spoke to Tyler and Black and ordered a mug like yours, so when I feel that the world is out of place, I can make a cup of Yorkshire tea, read tje words on the mug, breath deep and let the world fall back into place. I do love your posts read them all and say If Wendy can I can, FTD is not going to win yet. Hugs

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  3. I loved this Wendy. Your positivity shines through and I have enormous respect for it . You are so correct in so many things you say. I’m finding there are kind people around but some days, you need to look for them!! Enjoy your Christmas! X

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  4. You are an amazing lady Wendy. I love your photos I’m Sorry I can no longer read all your posts but I do read bits & love how you love Christmas & support your local community. We do the same 🙂

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