Guest Poem………

This is a poem by a Twitter and blog friend – Sonya Hill. Her Father in Law has Alzheimers and also a friend of her mum…..Enjoy. I’ll try and pass on any messages you send.

How many times do i have to say please behave if only for a day.
What ever I say or what ever I do never seems acceptable to you.
You sit with a vacant expression on your face, I run backwards and forwards for you all over the place.
Where have I put that this and where have I put that you ask and I reply, I’ve told you a thousand times then you look at me and sigh.

It’s then I cup your face and look into your eyes, it’s hard for you to understand,  and make you realize.
Looking back throughout the years the memories we hold, the love, laughter, and all the stories you have told.
It’s you and me now, a challenge every day, as I gaze into your empty eyes I would just like to say.
I loved you when we met all those years ago, it’s now been more than 25 years and I love you even more so.

You can’t help yourself with this dreadful disease, but we can fight it along the way.
Even though it’s a battle to make you understand, I would just like to say,
Alzheimers, for you, is a lonely life but always remember I love you my darling wife.
If you think of the future and forget the past let’s live our lives as though it’s our last……

About wendy7713

On the 31st July 2014 I was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s. I may not have much of a short term memory anymore but that date is one I’ll never forget. I’m 58 years young, live happily alone in Yorkshire, have 2 daughters and I’m currently still in full time employment in the NHS. However, I’m now in the process of taking early retirement to give me a chance of enjoying life while I’m still me. I've started this blog to allow me, in the first instance, to write all my thoughts before they’re lost. If anyone chooses to follow my ramblings it will serve as a way of raising awareness on the lack of research into Alzheimer's. It will hopefully convey the helplessness of those diagnosed with dementia, as there is no cure – the end is inevitable. However, I’m also hoping I can convey that, although we've been diagnosed, people like me still have a substantial contribution to make; we still have a sense of humour; we sill have feelings. I’m hoping to show the reality of trying to cope on a day to day basis with the ever-changing environment that dementia throws at those diagnosed with the condition. What I want is not sympathy. What I want is simply to raise awareness.

17 thoughts on “Guest Poem………

  1. That is a beautiful description of the real struggle that exists with this horrible disease. Thank you for sharing. I just started reading your book and am about 1/3rd of the way through it. What a great gift you have given the world with this book. Thank you.

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  2. Such a loving poem. I think of my brother-in-law who is 87 and the main caregiver for my sister, 80, who has lived wtih Alzheimer’s for 7 years. They will celebrate their 60th anniversay in August.Their daughter and son-in-law bought a bigger house last year so the parents could move in and that has helped so much. I enjoy reading your post every morning. You are such an inspiration Wendy!

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  3. Is it ok to share this on Facebook?
    Wendy, as I work in the NHS I find your posts so helpful when trying to understand how challenging it is for people in hospital. Thank you.

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  4. Lovely poem moving words by your friend . I’ve just finished your book Wendy …what can I say but truly remarkable . I thought it would make me feel so sad reading about dementia as my mum had Vascular Dementia . But instead it gave me an insight in to how she may of felt or processed things in her daily routine. Sadly she passed away 5 years ago this week of a Heart attack but the dementia had taken it’s toll on her in those last few months. She was quite child like at times and I as her carer was more like the parent . I was actually sad the book came to an end as I enjoyed reading about what you did ,how you planned everything . Glad you have this blog so I can continue to learn more. Hope you are doing well and look forward to reading about the next chapter of your life on here .

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  5. Great poem. I’ll try to get Tammy Semede to post some of her powerful stuff for you to read Wendy. She’s a wonderful wordsmith and is now a carer at a home where her grandmother resides. A lot of her stuff is dementia related and makes me quite emotional. X

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