Professional Questioning……

There’s one apparently ‘professional expert’ on social media who has constantly questioned the diagnosis of what he himself have labelled, ‘high profile’ people with dementia. This has led me to question his ‘professional expertise’.

He’s an ‘old age psychiatrist’ so not even a neurologist or expert in imaging, so why does he think he has the ‘expert knowledge’ to question when they/we’ve all had a diagnosis with proof?

I’m not sure why he sees it appropriate to publicly question and publicly diagnose when he’s not been involved in any of their/our diagnosis. So why does he continue to do this? He was at it again the other day, not directly at me this time, but one of my dear friends –  what makes a professional behave in this unethical manner?

As I’m sure I’ve said before, I no longer feel the emotion of anger – I have 3 states, happy, sad or content. So I find it incredibly sad when I see such comments appear periodically. It also upsets my daughters, which is even worse.

People like that are the reason why I continue to speak out. I won’t be silenced by ignorance and unkindness.

I wouldn’t wish a diagnosis of dementia on anyone but if he lived in any of our shoes for 24 hours he may change his mind. Does he think we/they ‘enjoy’ living with dementia?

If professionals are supposed to make you sad and depressed then he’s very good at his job. However, I’d really like to think he’s in the minority and many I’ve met have been glad to learn more about the reality to give them a better understanding of their patients and more insight into being able to help them.

I love Twitter, as most people are kind. They can question in a kind way.

I doubt this will ever be the case for this person as he’s continued to do this for the last 4 years. How sad for his patients …….. I no longer engage in conversation with him – what’s the point?

And now I’ve used the block button …….

About wendy7713

On the 31st July 2014 I was diagnosed with Young Onset Dementia. I may not have much of a short term memory anymore but that date is one I’ll never forget. I’m 58 years young, live happily alone in Yorkshire, have 2 daughters and I’m currently still in full time employment in the NHS. However, I’m now in the process of taking early retirement to give me a chance of enjoying life while I’m still me. I've started this blog to allow me, in the first instance, to write all my thoughts before they’re lost. If anyone chooses to follow my ramblings it will serve as a way of raising awareness on the lack of research into Alzheimer's. It will hopefully convey the helplessness of those diagnosed with dementia, as there is no cure – the end is inevitable. However, I’m also hoping I can convey that, although we've been diagnosed, people like me still have a substantial contribution to make; we still have a sense of humour; we sill have feelings. I’m hoping to show the reality of trying to cope on a day to day basis with the ever-changing environment that dementia throws at those diagnosed with the condition. What I want is not sympathy. What I want is simply to raise awareness.

24 thoughts on “Professional Questioning……

  1. You inspire me more than you’ll ever know. It’s through your courage in speaking out that we learn about dementia and how we can help and change society’s ignorance’s. Thank you

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  2. Wendy, you are an amazing person. We all know that through your superbly written blogs This poor deluded, jealous man is not with your sadness. Just keep on inspiring us all.

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  3. Your positive information and spirit are an inspiration here in Southern California. Keep up your important work and good for you for knowing which button to push!

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  4. Of course we all know who you are referring to. I’m also writing a blog about this, as it’s unethical. No less, no more. And a few more things. Unkind, unreasonable, outdated thinking and ignorant too. I thought about blocking, but that won’t stop it. So instead I’m tackling it more openly. After all, after a REAL dx of dementia, there’s not much else to lose!

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  5. You’re right Wendy…It is truly sad. Your honest, open sharing had really helped me to grow in awareness of others, especially those living with dementia. You are making so many of us sit up and take notice. That is essential! We need to support each other and to be open to what others can teach us. How can anyone possibly judge anothers’ experience from outside? You are a bright star on our horizon. Keep shining dear Wendy…

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  6. I hope, whoever he is, sees your post; your,and many others, positive and problem solving approach to “the challenges of our journey”, and re evaluates his “professional opinion”. None of us are too old to learn!
    Mind you he may “BLOCK”!!!
    The one thing I have learnt through our “Dementia journey” is we are all Individuals, with individual experiences, and feelings. It is ok to be ourselves. I think the title “Still Alice” said it all.
    You are a real inspiration Wendy. it was a pleasure to meet you at Beverley Library and thank you in person.xx


  7. He is assuming that we are not suffering from dementia until the latter stages..old age thinking. There will be MORE people diagnosed earlier so more high profile..

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