The difference between the visible and non visible…..

With a physical disability the focus appears to be on enabling what you can still do. Look at the Invictus games. It was wonderful to watch people, who often had extreme disabilities, take charge of their life and turn their talents to different achievements.

I was so impressed with their attitude and the attitude of those around them – some amazing people with extreme disabilities being encouraged to focus on the positives, on the ‘can do’ and their disability put into the background…… why isn’t this the case with dementia or with any mental illness?

Often the focus is on our losses, the losses in the present and the losses that havn’t even happened yet in the future……the negatives.

How many people living with dementia faced with such negativity go home and wait to die? Give up living?

No one tells them the possibilities, the challenges, the hope of what CAN be achieved. How many could achieve great things if only they were given hope, given positivity, given encouragement, instead of negativity…..

FOCUS ON THE PERSON, NOT THE DEMENTIA and see how much can still be achieved.

Such a shame that no matter whether a physical or mental condition, that the focus isn’t always on what we CAN still do. We still have talents, maybe different, maybe the same as before.

No matter how small, every achievement is a positive.

About wendy7713

On the 31st July 2014 I was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s. I may not have much of a short term memory anymore but that date is one I’ll never forget. I’m 58 years young, live happily alone in Yorkshire, have 2 daughters and I’m currently still in full time employment in the NHS. However, I’m now in the process of taking early retirement to give me a chance of enjoying life while I’m still me. I've started this blog to allow me, in the first instance, to write all my thoughts before they’re lost. If anyone chooses to follow my ramblings it will serve as a way of raising awareness on the lack of research into Alzheimer's. It will hopefully convey the helplessness of those diagnosed with dementia, as there is no cure – the end is inevitable. However, I’m also hoping I can convey that, although we've been diagnosed, people like me still have a substantial contribution to make; we still have a sense of humour; we sill have feelings. I’m hoping to show the reality of trying to cope on a day to day basis with the ever-changing environment that dementia throws at those diagnosed with the condition. What I want is not sympathy. What I want is simply to raise awareness.

11 thoughts on “The difference between the visible and non visible…..

  1. And you Wendy, are the perfect example of what you can do if you put your mind to it and not just give up! Absolutely love reading your blog posts. It is so refreshing to read of your can do’s and not the cannots lol.

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  2. I’ve only recently “discovered” you Wendy and have been inspired by your blog and your book. I work on an NHS rehabilitation ward as a registered nurse and we are undergoing many changes in our way of caring and supporting our patients, many of whom live with dementia. One of the biggest challenges is changing the ways of staff who have always looked after patients, whereas now we are focusing on what they can do, what they want to be able to do and how can they be supported to achieve these goals. Goals are set with the patient, not for the patient. I have recommended your book to staff and hope they read it as I believe it will go a long way in changing their perspective on those living with dementia.


  3. Well said Wendy. But do you think this is because we used to be unaware of what people with such disabilities are going through. We only observed and thought/ assumed the needs and acted with best of our intentions. That clearly wasn’t the case..?

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