The Last Book Event of the Year…..

Well yesterday, this exhausting few weeks finally came to an end with my final Book Event. How fortunate I was and how wonderful that it was actually in my hometown of Beverley and to top it all, it was a sell out………

It was the opening event to their Festival of Words so I imagine nerves were jangling but I arrived at the venue and was immediately shown into the children’s library where the event would take place. They were still getting ready but people were already standing outside waiting to come in…..

Because it was local it was wonderful that Sarah was able to come along as it was her day off. Stuart, Gemmas partner, also planned his days so that he could come too. Sadly Gemma had to be at work.

The first thing they brought me was a pot of tea😊

I chatted happily with the organisers and a couple of men got the cameras ready as they were also filming the event. They wanted to film me afterwards too answering 3 short questions…….

Sarah and Stuart were allowed in ahead of the audience which gave us a chance for our own piccie

Anyway, as I was mid cuppa, the audience began to arrive and happily waved and chatted to me so I could finish my tea.

Because it was in the children’s library, it was a lovely setting as it was so bright and colourful! I could have spent ages scanning the book shelves.

And they had a wonderful elephant and baby…..

But the time came for me to speak. I was given a lovely introduction and then spent about 45 minutes talking about this that and everything. My analogy of the fairy lights seemed to go down particularly well. I said:

Image the brain as a string of fairy lights. Each fairy light representing a different function of the brain. Some lights flicker on and off – dementia affecting our ability to do something one day and then we’re able to the next. But when the light fail altogether that’s when dementia has won and has taken that ability away for good. But different fairy lights flicker and fail for each of us.”

I finished by reading the Billy extract from my book to end on something humerous…..they were warm in their applause and questions and many queued up to speak to me afterwards and have their book signed.

There were some people living with dementia along with their partners and each came to say hello. One man, whose wife was now in a care home, came over and said how, they’d never been ones to talk about it, but after hearing me, he was going to try and hoped it wasn’t too late……One chappie brought me 2 poems and I said I would put them on my blog soon as guest poems. People who read my blog and Twitter friends also appeared – so wonderful.

What a way to end a crazy few wonderful weeks. I can now have a few days chilling and writing in silence…..

As the audience disappeared amongst much chatter and reflection, they filmed me answering their 3 questions. The last question was:

“What’s your favourite word”……..I said I didn’t have one but four…….

There’s always a way’……..

About wendy7713

On the 31st July 2014 I was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s. I may not have much of a short term memory anymore but that date is one I’ll never forget. I’m 58 years young, live happily alone in Yorkshire, have 2 daughters and I’m currently still in full time employment in the NHS. However, I’m now in the process of taking early retirement to give me a chance of enjoying life while I’m still me. I've started this blog to allow me, in the first instance, to write all my thoughts before they’re lost. If anyone chooses to follow my ramblings it will serve as a way of raising awareness on the lack of research into Alzheimer's. It will hopefully convey the helplessness of those diagnosed with dementia, as there is no cure – the end is inevitable. However, I’m also hoping I can convey that, although we've been diagnosed, people like me still have a substantial contribution to make; we still have a sense of humour; we sill have feelings. I’m hoping to show the reality of trying to cope on a day to day basis with the ever-changing environment that dementia throws at those diagnosed with the condition. What I want is not sympathy. What I want is simply to raise awareness.

13 thoughts on “The Last Book Event of the Year…..

  1. Wendy – you are such an inspiration. I have so enjoyed reading about your jaunts around the country which you recount with such humour. Enjoy your rest, although I am sure you will be keeping busy in less tiring ways.

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  2. Hello Wendy. I’m Thai PhD student who was talking to you at the end of your speaking. Yesterday event was very nice for me and it is very good to listen to your experiences and your perspectives on dementia. It is very useful for me and my PhD research as I know that the culture from each country can have an effect on the care need of persons with dementia but you also mentioned that each person has an individual need, which is very true and it is very important to be concerned. Thank you for your wonderful perspectives.

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  3. I love your analogy of the fairy lights, it’s a brilliant way to remember why sometimes it’s harder than others. I also think your four words are so positive and encouraging for those waiting to get a diagnosis. Thank you! xx

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  4. Wendy – Loved your talk yesterday. An eye opener. I was particularly impressed by your work with school
    children and look forward to reading more on this subject. Just found your blog and look forward to reading it.

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  5. Wendy, So pleased to have met you,. So sorry my husband, who has Alzheimer’s, was having a “ bad day “ and on “The Day” could not have coped. Fortunately my sister was here and was able to take him home, and allow me hear you speak.
    He would have benefited so much from hearing you speak. You have a gift being able to communicate and “ground” the ”feelings so many people diagnosed feel, but are unable to express” . I know some of what you said would have, for a short time, given him “ comfort” – if that is the right word.
    Thank you and enjoy your “vacation (?)” with your family.

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      1. And hope you are having a rest!! Your two daughters are quite right, – I suspect they are trying to get you to slow down!!, Spend some time for yourself and them. You do not appreciate how much you have already done to challenge people’s concept/ reality of Dementia. Can you do more?
        But remember – There is a very good support network in the Beverley and Villages Area. Not as yet supported by Government, Health, and Social Care agencies as they should. But you met, and mentioned some of us in your blog. When you need us we are there for you. xx

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