My ramblings for those supporting someone with dementia….

Don’t disable you’re loved one before they lose the capacity to do something – support them to find new ways instead.e.g take photos of the contents of cupboards to remind them where to find things and that the cupboards exist.

Expect good and bad days – embrace the good and support through the bad

Make plans and talk about the future – ignoring it won’t make it magically disappear.

Encourage your loved one to be involved in the community

Never contradict your loved one – live in our world as to contradict would simply confuse

TALK to your loved one about how they feel and how you feel.

Inspire others by talking freely about dementia – don’t be embarrassed.

Ask for help when you need it

About wendy7713

On the 31st July 2014 I was diagnosed with Young Onset Dementia. I may not have much of a short term memory anymore but that date is one I’ll never forget. I’m 58 years young, live happily alone in Yorkshire, have 2 daughters and I’m currently still in full time employment in the NHS. However, I’m now in the process of taking early retirement to give me a chance of enjoying life while I’m still me. I've started this blog to allow me, in the first instance, to write all my thoughts before they’re lost. If anyone chooses to follow my ramblings it will serve as a way of raising awareness on the lack of research into Alzheimer's. It will hopefully convey the helplessness of those diagnosed with dementia, as there is no cure – the end is inevitable. However, I’m also hoping I can convey that, although we've been diagnosed, people like me still have a substantial contribution to make; we still have a sense of humour; we sill have feelings. I’m hoping to show the reality of trying to cope on a day to day basis with the ever-changing environment that dementia throws at those diagnosed with the condition. What I want is not sympathy. What I want is simply to raise awareness.

2 thoughts on “My ramblings for those supporting someone with dementia….

  1. I so wish I had known all this when my mum was ill. Interesting to see that you mention contradiction – I befriend a lady who had dementia and, today, it was noticeable that her son-in-law often contradicted her. She didn’t seem to mind and it was done kindly but, even so … not necessary or helpful.

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