Should all the emphasis be on “living well” with dementia?

Well my view is a resounding YES from every angle and why?

Dementia is a bummer of a diagnosis to receive in anyone’s language, but to then be continually faced with negativity can only be bad for how we deal with that diagnosis.

Words matter and are a powerful medium to changing the well being of people. As someone living with dementia I don’t want to read a news article which implies how much of a ‘burden’ we are and how challenging our behaviour is for loved ones. If ‘carers’ and healthcare professionals continually see this type of language, there’s no doubt they will think this as the inevitability of the disease. On the flip side of the coin, if they were to see positive news on ‘How best to understand and support a loved one with dementia”, rather than ‘How best to cope with challenging behaviour’ – wouldn’t this affect the way they think of dementia in a more positive way?

Language is so key in affecting people’s reaction to a situation – both healthcare professionals and public alike. I’ve often spoken about ‘challenging behaviour of staff’ in defence of people with dementia. If staff had more awareness and understanding of why someone is behaving in such a way, that behaviour might not occur in the first place. This could also help loved ones. I’ve said so often

no one gives us a handbook when we’re diagnosed.

This can often lead to loved ones simply not understanding the way a person with dementia is reacting to certain situations or how to deal with it.

Some people have questioned our insistence on promoting that living well and positive language is possible as this detracts from the struggles we experience. My answer to those critics is that we have no control over how our disease progresses, we know it’s not a good outcome, so why dwell on something over which we have no control, why not instead focus on the positives – on how to make this bummer of an existence, as good as we possibly can and focus on living as well as we can.

If people told you consistently that you were stupid, you’d eventually begin to think there might be something in it………why would people with dementia be any different. If we’re consistently seeing the words ‘burden’ and ‘suffering’, we’ll eventually believe it……..
THINK POSITIVE – you’ll be amazed at the power of positive thinking………

I love the images you can find via Google........
I love the images you can find via Google……..
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About wendy7713

On the 31st July 2014 I was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s. I may not have much of a short term memory anymore but that date is one I’ll never forget. I’m 58 years young, live happily alone in Yorkshire, have 2 daughters and I’m currently still in full time employment in the NHS. However, I’m now in the process of taking early retirement to give me a chance of enjoying life while I’m still me. I've started this blog to allow me, in the first instance, to write all my thoughts before they’re lost. If anyone chooses to follow my ramblings it will serve as a way of raising awareness on the lack of research into Alzheimer's. It will hopefully convey the helplessness of those diagnosed with dementia, as there is no cure – the end is inevitable. However, I’m also hoping I can convey that, although we've been diagnosed, people like me still have a substantial contribution to make; we still have a sense of humour; we sill have feelings. I’m hoping to show the reality of trying to cope on a day to day basis with the ever-changing environment that dementia throws at those diagnosed with the condition. What I want is not sympathy. What I want is simply to raise awareness.

8 thoughts on “Should all the emphasis be on “living well” with dementia?

  1. I so agree. Your description of difficulties in your new home, cupboards in particular was most helpful. My partner and I help support our Mum and it has been a steep learning curve. Your blog has helped us to understand so much and hopefully enable us to be better and more helpful as we try to give Mum the best quality of life that we can. Thank you x

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  2. Thank you Wendy. This is my first contact with your blog and I will thoroughly recommend it to those coming to my Dementia Friends presentations. have just shared it on Facebook for the same reason.

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