I’ve never had so many strangers in my house as I have over the last fortnight since I moved. In a previous life I would have done most of the jobs myself – I’ve never had to rely on other people and it’s been very hard. It’s been a learning curve for them as well as me!
I’ve experienced some really rubbish people as well as some marvellous ones. It really has shown me how vulnerable people living on their own can be. It’s highlighted the importance of asking for help and asking for recommendations from friends and neighbours.
Today, I’ll talk about the positive experiences. Two particular tradesmen have been wonderful and have listened and taken on board the different requirements of someone with dementia.
The first was a guy who came round to give me a quote for carpets. I’d already had one company come round who weren’t helpful but this one took the time to sit down and listen.
I explained how for most people the experience of buying a carpet presented a minefield of choice, which when you have dementia isn’t helpful as I find it hard when faced with so much choice. Where once I could have systematically eliminated and chosen appropriately, I now find choice of any kind overwhelming.
He then queried whether a soft pile, which would show footprints, would be a problem – would I think they were someone else’s footprints? I’d never even thought of that and don’t actually know but it was a fair and observant question to ask.
The man then explained carpets in 3 simple ways.Short, medium and thick pile – no imprints, shadow marks and footprints. Now that was much easier to understand.
I didn’t like the feel of ‘short’ and didn’t like the idea of seeing footprints, so medium pile it was. He was understanding, interested and full of ideas and suggestions – result. So Paul from http://www.leightonscarpets.co.uk/ in Hull can have a BIG Gold star for his help
The second person who deserves some praise is Gary – who happens to be an old school friend of Stuarts. He’s sorting my bathroom and a few other things. He, again, came to the house and listened.Me and Gemma then went to the showroom and he showed us what was available. In the end he was suggesting things to us as they’d be more suitable. For example – the handles on the bathroom cabinet were small and modern – he suggested changing them to ones that were more obvious; he suggested a plain splash back for the shower as the one he had first thought of, although up to date, was too busy.
I don’t usually promote specific businesses but Gary’s also gets the thumbs up for service – http://www.kbdhull.co.uk/index.php
I’ve also had some bad experiences but they’ll wait for another day……….